My Dear Husband and One True Love,
Thank you for choosing me. You chose me to be your wife and the mother of your children. Thank you for choosing me time and time again. One of the keys to a successful marriage is choosing your spouse, not just once but over and over again. It’s about priorities. There will always be things that come up, but over and over, you choose me.
So Many Distractions
In today’s world, there are many distractions, so many distorted versions of romance. You have a full-time career, a small nonprofit that you manage that benefits our local community, tons of people that depend on you, and demands on our time. Yet I know that whatever you have going, if I really need you, then you will drop everything and come bravely running to my rescue. Not just once, but every single time.
Thank you for Choosing Me and Supporting My Dreams
When I had the crazy idea to start a blog and write a book, you were my number one fan. You believed in me, supported, and encouraged me to chase my dreams. You are in the unique position of being the one that I tell everything to. How much you care about me simply blows me away. Anything I want to try, I know that I have your support. I never would have taken leaps of faith without you. You believe and inspire me to chase my dreams. You are the wind beneath my wings.
Thank you for Choosing Me When I’m not at my Best
Being married to you is so secure. I know that even when I’m not at my best, you are still there. I see the concern in your eyes when I am sick. You care about how I feel. No matter what state I happen to be in, it does not change your love for me. Even when the going is tough, you are right there at my side. You choose to do that.
Thank you for choosing me when I’m as Loveable as a Porcupine
There are some days when even though I am not sick, I am hard to love. There are days where I feel moody and snappy. I think you get the worst of it on those days. I can be incredibly mad and you just sit back and watch the storm roll by. You listen to me. I see the care, concern, and love in your eyes. When I feel like a tornado inside, you put your big strong arms around me, and no matter how mad I am, you calm the storm.
Thank you for choosing me and the kids
We are partners in this life, you and I.
I know that our family matters as much to you as it does to me. I know that the boys are not “the kids” but “OUR kids.” We raise them together because you care about what is going on in their lives, as you care about mine. You are a loving father, showing them the example of what a man should be: strong, tough, yet kind and gentle. They need that in their lives. You don’t shy away from talking to them about big issues. You choose to spend your time not only me but with all of us.
Thank you for choosing me as your standard of beauty
As much as I talk about how comparing yourself to others is a trap, I still find myself guilty sometimes. I look at other women and compare myself to them. I unconsciously gaze in the mirror and see things about myself that I would like to change and find fault with my body. But you don’t. You have never seen my flaws. Though I have changed shapes over the years, you have always looked at and viewed me as a supermodel, and as your personal standard of beauty.
I have never worried about you finding another woman more attractive than me, nor have I ever felt like I had to compete with another woman for your attention. I know that I have it all. You tell me over and over. I love hearing you compliment me. All those repeated compliments build up my self-confidence and I am learning more and more to like what I see in the mirror. You choose to not let me talk down about my physical appearance. I know that you have eyes for me and only me. Thank you for choosing me as your standard of beauty.
Thank you for choosing me as your standard of what makes a good wife
Similarly, you choose me as your standard of what makes a good wife. You brag to the guys about how good your wife is. I appreciate that you talk good about me even when I’m not there. I love that you show me off. Your desk at work is littered with pictures of me and the boys. I know that you are proud that I am your wife, as I am very proud to BE your wife. The best title I have ever received is “Mrs. Webb.” Thank you for choosing to acknowledge all the little things that I do and for letting me know that you appreciate them.
Thank you for choosing me no matter the circumstance
No matter what situation we are in, I know that you will choose me. Our marriage vows included “for richer, for poorer, for better or worse, as long as we both shall live.” Life has ups and downs. It has challenging times and easy times, happy times and sad times. I know that whatever we are going through the one constant will be you. I know that you will choose to stay by my side no matter what our circumstances are. We may be down in the valley or standing on the peak of the highest mountain, but I know that you will choose to stay beside me.
Thank you for choosing me over your career
You are the breadwinner in our household. Every day you bravely go to work and slay dragons for me and the kids. You have a very successful career that I know you are good at. You make the long commute, every day, day in and day out. I know how hard you work for what you bring home to feed our family with. Even when you are at work, I know that the boys and I are your “why.”
Thank you for choosing me as your priority
No matter what you are doing, no matter what your other obligations are, I know that you choose me. You choose me because you have placed me at the top of your priority list. In today’s world, it’s all too easy for those priorities to get scrambled. It’s all too easy for black and white to turn to gray, but not for you. Your choice has always been loud and clear. You choose me.
Thank you for choosing me even when the house is a mess
Life happens, and in all transparency, I’m not the most naturally inclined to keep a super clean house. It’s not unhealthy, but neither is it magazine worthy most of the time. We have kids. They live in our house, as do we. We have movie night from time to time, and the popcorn always migrates to the carpet. Sometimes the pizza finds its way off the towel that we lay out in the living room as well. Toys? Yes, those migrate as well. Sometimes it happens so quickly that I wonder if they do not come alive when no one is looking like on “Toy Story.” The kitchen is not always spotlessly gleaming. Not all the dirty clothes make it to the clothes hamper 100% of the time.
Still, no matter the state of the house, you still choose me. Even when I am sitting in the middle of a mess, instead of criticizing, you help. Sometimes we clean the house together. Other times, we say “we live here. It’s ok. Let’s go out to eat.
Thank you for choosing me no matter how large or small our bank account.
Our wedding vows included “for richer or poorer.” That has certainly been true for us. Sometimes we have had more and sometimes we have had less. However, we have been blessed, no matter the state of our bank account. We have been blessed that all of our bills have been paid. We have always had food on the table. Sometimes we are eating beanie weenies and tater cakes, other times steak. But no matter what is on the table, you choose to love me just the same.
Whether we are staying home or going out, you choose me. There is never any blame. We have always managed our finances without fighting. That is a huge blessing.
Thank you for choosing me no matter what forever and always.
Thank you for choosing me, no matter the circumstance. You make me your priority. You put me over your career and your other obligations. I know that I am first in your heart, I always have been, and I always will be. You see, one of the “secrets” of a successful marriage is setting your spouse as a priority and you have mastered that. Your actions back that up.
I love the way that you look at me, whether I am all dressed up and ready to go on a date, or if I am in yoga pants, no makeup and messy hair. You’ve seen it all, and you love me still the same. You’ve seen me happy, sad, mad, glad, and excited. You believe in me, you cheer me on. You are an amazing and involved Dad to our children. More and more I am discovering that “I Love You” is not always shouted from the mountaintops, but more often found in the whispers of everyday things. Thank you for always choosing me. I love you.
P. S. I choose you too. <3